Listening or Speaking? Hearing or sharing your tale? It's up to you to decided which you prefer, I discovered my preference the hard way.
As friends, we count on each other to be there. The ones that we are closest to are the ones we open our hearts to. Topic of discussion may vary but the simple act of listening and talking is enough to make anyone’s day.
We tell people everything in order to get it off our chest. We listen to their heart’s tale and share our own. The stories and ideas shared are sacred between people. They are thoughtful and pure feelings. We owe it to each other to keep their tales a secret and honor their friendship and trust.
I could never stand lying to a friend. I honor them too much. As I mentioned in my Friendship essay, I have been betrayed by someone I thought was a friend. I told her everything and even blabbed on and on about my stories and poems. In return, she threw it right back in my face. She also told me that our whole friendship had been a lie. She said I could not see through her facade. I decided long before this event that I would honor everyone I met as a friend until they gave me a reason not to. But I put my complete and total trust in those friends.
I don’t want to repeat the things she said. I will simply state that I may be more guarded now. I don’t open up my heart as easily. I wait and trust people before I tell them all the minute details about my life.
That’s why I prefer to listen to others. I enjoy simply being there for people. I may not express my feeling through words but others can hear how I feel in my poetry. That is how I express myself, that is where my emotions have free reign.
Lies versus Love
One can hurt the heart,
The other pulls it back together.
One can make you happy only from start,
The other lasts forever.
One can hurt the ones you care about,
The other can find loved ones anew.
One causes you to fear and doubt,
The other gives you faith to make it through.
One makes you arrogant,
The other makes you humble.
One makes you believe you are brilliant,
The other allows you to stand when you stumble.
One can break trust,
The other gains you new friends.
One disappears into dust,
The other never ends.
- Coll Begley
Do you prefer to talk or listen?
I love the poem!!! You are right about the powers of love and lies. It is horrible when you realize that someone you once trusted has betrayed you. I love to listen to people even if I don't have any advice to offer. Just talking helps home people find peace. I tend to be more guarded in sharing my emotions with others, but shall never betray someone's trust. Betrayal is the worst pain someone can inflict on you because it comes from a person you once loved.
ReplyDeleteI'm going to second Sam on the fact that the poem is amazing!! And the fact that it rhymes is always a plus for me! Colleen, I have also had an experience where I was betrayed by a friend, but I found out about this through another friend. At the end, I became close to the other friend, so all's well that ends well. But, I still keep that person's secrets safe, regardless of the fact that he broke my trust, because being true to your words is very important to me. Also, I completely agree with you on the fact that you need to test the waters before you trust people because betrayal can occur in the blink of an eye. I feel that if you truly love someone, you will be straightforward with them, like your poem conveys.
ReplyDeleteListening is yet another aspect that heals. When I did experience betrayal, the friend that I ended up getting close to was the one who sat and listened to me, and the fact that he sided with me was always a positive!